Comments on: One in ten people will self-harm at some stage in their lives. Why? http://www.nouse.co.uk/2009/11/10/one-in-ten-people-will-self-harm-at-some-stage-in-their-lives-why/ Award-winning University of York Student Newspaper and Website Thu, 09 Feb 2012 18:59:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: G http://www.nouse.co.uk/2009/11/10/one-in-ten-people-will-self-harm-at-some-stage-in-their-lives-why/#comment-89177 G Mon, 28 Nov 2011 14:47:01 +0000 http://www.nouse.co.uk/?p=17393#comment-89177 I agree with above. Self-harming isn't always a cry for help and an attenion seeking act as many self-harmers do it in secret and would be horrified if people found out. I self harmed for years (from about the age of 12 to 15) and eventually my mum saw and I was made to get help. For those reading this that are currently self-harmers...there is a way out. Yes it's hard as you have to find new coping mechanisms but it's worth it and I am so proud of myself for managing to get over it. People won't judge you, they'll want to help you, there's no need to be scared. It's shocking how many people are in the same position as you, and it's not always obvious who the self-harmers are so you must not feel lonely. People assume that it's the emo-depressed type however that's not always true, and I am an example of this. There is a way out and there is hope for us all. x I agree with above. Self-harming isn’t always a cry for help and an attenion seeking act as many self-harmers do it in secret and would be horrified if people found out. I self harmed for years (from about the age of 12 to 15) and eventually my mum saw and I was made to get help. For those reading this that are currently self-harmers…there is a way out. Yes it’s hard as you have to find new coping mechanisms but it’s worth it and I am so proud of myself for managing to get over it. People won’t judge you, they’ll want to help you, there’s no need to be scared. It’s shocking how many people are in the same position as you, and it’s not always obvious who the self-harmers are so you must not feel lonely. People assume that it’s the emo-depressed type however that’s not always true, and I am an example of this. There is a way out and there is hope for us all. x

]]> By: Blackbird_fly http://www.nouse.co.uk/2009/11/10/one-in-ten-people-will-self-harm-at-some-stage-in-their-lives-why/#comment-89143 Blackbird_fly Sun, 27 Nov 2011 02:56:27 +0000 http://www.nouse.co.uk/?p=17393#comment-89143 Self harm isn't a way to seek attention as a few might think, its actually a silent way to say "hey look I need help". Nobody knows what's going on in our minds or about the things we have been through... I can't remember when I first started with this... I have flashes of memories from when I was little scratching my legs using nails or even forks and nothing would stops me till I bleed. After a while branding and cutting comes "naturally" if I can say so. I'm now 28y.o and I carry this ghost inside of me for easily as far as I remember more than 15 years, which sounds insane but true. I went a step further and I (not proudly) tried to end up with my life 3x... My family doesn't really know about my real situation but of course they suspect of it. Many of my relationships ended badly because its tough for guys stay with girls full of markes and the funny thing usually is: at the beginning they say "its fine, I love you, I am here for you. You don't have to deal with this shit all alone" to then simply disappear as we were nothing strangers and this when I most needed them. It really sucks! And this happened with me recently :( The more the time heals the wounds the more I become cold regarding everything. I'd thought "love" was something but as usual its just a joke. I feel sorry for myself but I can't change who/what I am...not anymore. Xx Self harm isn’t a way to seek attention as a few might think, its actually a silent way to say “hey look I need help”. Nobody knows what’s going on in our minds or about the things we have been through… I can’t remember when I first started with this… I have flashes of memories from when I was little scratching my legs using nails or even forks and nothing would stops me till I bleed. After a while branding and cutting comes “naturally” if I can say so. I’m now 28y.o and I carry this ghost inside of me for easily as far as I remember more than 15 years, which sounds insane but true. I went a step further and I (not proudly) tried to end up with my life 3x…
My family doesn’t really know about my real situation but of course they suspect of it. Many of my relationships ended badly because its tough for guys stay with girls full of markes and the funny thing usually is: at the beginning they say “its fine, I love you, I am here for you. You don’t have to deal with this shit all alone” to then simply disappear as we were nothing strangers and this when I most needed them. It really sucks! And this happened with me recently :( The more the time heals the wounds the more I become cold regarding everything. I’d thought “love” was something but as usual its just a joke.
I feel sorry for myself but I can’t change who/what I am…not anymore.

Xx

]]> By: bonnie http://www.nouse.co.uk/2009/11/10/one-in-ten-people-will-self-harm-at-some-stage-in-their-lives-why/#comment-85420 bonnie Wed, 19 Jan 2011 17:34:18 +0000 http://www.nouse.co.uk/?p=17393#comment-85420 sometimes asking for help is alot harder than it looks. and asking a adult seems more bad than it sounds you would rather want to talk to your freinds because sometime they are the only thing that keep not from doing it everybody who is self harming or slef harmed might have had something or someone that has motvited them not to cut anymore its not so much that the person knows its knowing that they would be upset if you left ... but sometimes thats just not enough. sometimes asking for help is alot harder than it looks. and asking a adult seems more bad than it sounds you would rather want to talk to your freinds because sometime they are the only thing that keep not from doing it

everybody who is self harming or slef harmed might have had something or someone that has motvited them not to cut anymore its not so much that the person knows its knowing that they would be upset if you left … but sometimes thats just not enough.

]]> By: Lina http://www.nouse.co.uk/2009/11/10/one-in-ten-people-will-self-harm-at-some-stage-in-their-lives-why/#comment-85374 Lina Sun, 16 Jan 2011 00:53:57 +0000 http://www.nouse.co.uk/?p=17393#comment-85374 Sometimes it's not so easy to ask for help, even if someone has asked if everything's okay. Part of you is screaming for someone to notice, for someone to pick you up and help you, but the other part of you is too ashamed. The mere thought of someone knowing makes you realise how stupid you are. It's a vicious circle. Self-harmers can't be counted on to ask for help. Someone has to notice and do more than just ask if everything's okay. Sometimes it’s not so easy to ask for help, even if someone has asked if everything’s okay. Part of you is screaming for someone to notice, for someone to pick you up and help you, but the other part of you is too ashamed. The mere thought of someone knowing makes you realise how stupid you are.

It’s a vicious circle.

Self-harmers can’t be counted on to ask for help. Someone has to notice and do more than just ask if everything’s okay.

]]> By: Chris http://www.nouse.co.uk/2009/11/10/one-in-ten-people-will-self-harm-at-some-stage-in-their-lives-why/#comment-64201 Chris Fri, 11 Dec 2009 23:26:43 +0000 http://www.nouse.co.uk/?p=17393#comment-64201 Those are terrible statistics, but you also need to consider this, 1 in every 4 people will have some form of mental illness at some point in their lives. Those are terrible statistics, but you also need to consider this, 1 in every 4 people will have some form of mental illness at some point in their lives.

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